Congrats to Nick for figuring it out! I hope things go well with your parents. <3
For talking about it, I think I'd just ask him what he prefers? Maybe he's fine with you talking about your childhood with your "sister" for purposes of shorthanding it to acquaintances, or maybe he'd rather be called your brother in all situations, or have you use "sibling". I think different people are gonna have different preferences for that kind of thing.
This came up recently with my husband's brother's spouse, who is non-binary, which doesn't really have an easy set of natural-sounding-in-English options for describing their relationships, especially to me. So I just asked them, and they said they're fine with being referred to as my sister-in-law or their kids' mom as an everyday talking-to-acquaintances type of thing; they just would prefer NB pronouns when referring to them directly. But obviously this will vary hugely by person; someone else might want something totally different.
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Date: 2019-01-30 11:49 pm (UTC)For talking about it, I think I'd just ask him what he prefers? Maybe he's fine with you talking about your childhood with your "sister" for purposes of shorthanding it to acquaintances, or maybe he'd rather be called your brother in all situations, or have you use "sibling". I think different people are gonna have different preferences for that kind of thing.
This came up recently with my husband's brother's spouse, who is non-binary, which doesn't really have an easy set of natural-sounding-in-English options for describing their relationships, especially to me. So I just asked them, and they said they're fine with being referred to as my sister-in-law or their kids' mom as an everyday talking-to-acquaintances type of thing; they just would prefer NB pronouns when referring to them directly. But obviously this will vary hugely by person; someone else might want something totally different.