I would have to say I would classify myself and at least three of my close friends as asexual.
For me it is more about the relationship than sex. I find people attractive, enjoy romance, and even the physical side, but having a real relationship is more trouble than its work. I am physically affectionate and have close platonic friends of both sexes who I can cuddle up or ask for a backrub without it getting weird.
I have enough trouble keeping my own stuff together let alone someone else's. I wouldn't get a cat because it is too much responsibility let alone a lover. As a hetero leaning girl, I refuse to enter a relationship where I more mother than mate. This is what has always bothered me about relationships. It’s never just you and your partner who get into one: It’s always you, your partner, and society. And that’s not a three-way I’m comfortable with.
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Date: 2009-10-27 07:34 pm (UTC)For me it is more about the relationship than sex. I find people attractive, enjoy romance, and even the physical side, but having a real relationship is more trouble than its work. I am physically affectionate and have close platonic friends of both sexes who I can cuddle up or ask for a backrub without it getting weird.
I have enough trouble keeping my own stuff together let alone someone else's. I wouldn't get a cat because it is too much responsibility let alone a lover. As a hetero leaning girl, I refuse to enter a relationship where I more mother than mate. This is what has always bothered me about relationships. It’s never just you and your partner who get into one: It’s always you, your partner, and society. And that’s not a three-way I’m comfortable with.