[Meme] friendship types

[edenfalling]

The Realist You scored 19 constructivenes, -3 selflessness, 9 loyalty, and -11 supportiveness!

Constructive, selfish, and loyal, with a heap of tough love -- you are The Realist. Your first priority is exactly what it should be -- you. You're concerned about others but are unlikely to throw your life away on some foolhardy crusade to save someone else. Still, beyond those constraints, you're a loyal friend who tells it like it is, and you're probably quite funny. You'll help your friends solve their problems, even though they might not always like your advice, and you'll try to make the best of tough situations. That said, you'll try even harder to avoid or minimize those tough situations in the first place. There's a word for that. It's called "smart." You're fine just the way you are. Some people might call you selfish, and they'd be right, but you're still a good person, and you're unlikely to change, so it's not even worth suggesting it. View all the categories: The Death Star All Talk The Wolverine Fireworks The Time Bomb The Backstabber The Force of Nature Blind Faith Great Expectations The False Friend The Realist The Blowhard WTF? The Politician The Rock Diplomat/Doormat

My test tracked 4 variables How you compared to other people your age and gender: You scored higher than 74% on constructivenes You scored higher than 14% on selflessness You scored higher than 36% on loyalty You scored higher than 29% on supportiveness

Link: The 4-Variable Friendship Test written by sundust8 on Ok Cupid, home of the 32-Type Dating Test

Heh. I think this one has me pegged -- I am selfish, and I do prefer to give advice rather than offer a comforting shoulder. There's only so much sympathetic listening I can do before I want to start listing ways to fix things.

I have to be empathetic to be a good writer -- I have to be able to see other points of view -- but that doesn't mean I have to particularly care. It's a failing I periodically wish I could change. It might be nice to have large-scale sympathy for people, to have a burning social conscience (like Vicky does), but I've never been able to hold that sort of emotion for very long. My sympathy really only works on a personal level, and even then it slips my mind quickly unless someone reminds me.

It always amuses me to read about differing male and female approaches to conversations and problem-solving. The standard line is that women want people to listen and empathize, whereas men want to solve the problem. I like people to listen for a while, and then solve the damn problem. Because really, if you just make soothing noises and don't fix the root cause, what's the point? (I grant you this changes when the problem is inherently not solvable, but I sort of categorize those situations differently: they're 'issues' or 'situations' rather than 'problems,' if you will.)