wherein Liz considers earrings and identity

[edenfalling]

A couple years ago, I bought a pair of earrings that are kind of stealth asexual jewelry -- that is, each earring is a chain of three glittery origami stars, with the top one black, the middle silver, and the bottom purple. So, asexual colors, but also just pretty glittery paper stars, you know?

I like them a lot, but paper's kind of fragile, the middle stars are slowly tinting violet, and also I wanted a slightly dressier option.

So last month I bought a new set of stealth asexual earrings. This pair has a large, bell-shaped violet flower as the main focus, with three dangling silver stamens (one tipped with a black bead, one with a grey bead, and one with a clear bead). Above the large violet flower is a small black bead, and above that a spray of three tiny flowers -- one black, one violet, and one clear -- and a silver leaf. They are very pretty, they make satisfying click-rustle noises when I turn my head, and I love them just as much as the paper stars.

Yesterday I was poking around Etsy again, and found four additional pairs of asexual earrings (in varying degrees of stealth, and also varying degrees of classy and/or cute). Impulse purchases are not the best idea, so I let them sit for a day and tonight I asked myself if I really wanted to buy any of them.

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I bought all four.

Something about asexual jewelry just makes me really happy, you know? It has to be a certain degree of aesthetically pleasing -- I understand the symbolism behind a lot of grungier stuff, and also the purpose of making an in-your-face statement, but that is not my personal taste in earrings. But it's nice to be able to walk around with a quiet statement of "this is who I am" that other people can recognize or not as they have the relevant knowledge. It adds something to the general background effect of "these are pretty and/or cute and/or striking and I look good wearing them" that I get from earrings in general. :)

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To be blunt, it also helps that I really like purple, black, and gray/silver in general. There are some other pride color combos that I find aesthetically unpleasant, but fortunately the ace community chose a good set. I am retroactively proud of somebody's color sense. *wry*

Comments

[tielan]

Sounds pretty!

[edenfalling]

They are very pretty! :)

[violsva]

Somewhere on tumblr there's a post saying that the difference between bisexual and pansexual identification is which set of colours you prefer :)

Yay stealth asexual earrings!

[edenfalling]

Alas, I don't particularly like either the bi OR pan colors -- outside the context of a sunset or a bouquet of flowers, in which cases both can make excellent sense. *wry*

[redwolf]

Whee! Stealth jewellery! They sound awesome!

[edenfalling]

They are very cool, and three of them have been shipped so far!

[redwolf]

I don't know if it's useful knowledge. If you have the option to customise stones, amethyst for purple is easy, but grey and black may not be as obvious. Some Etsy sellers offer coloured diamonds and grey and black are on the bottom end of pricing scales.