wherein Liz is slightly uncomfortable about her new coworker

I have now worked twice with JG, our new trainee. He's a Cornell student, in ILR (which is, I think, a state school rather than a fully private school -- Cornell is a weird mish-mash of private and land-grant, so tuition levels vary wildly depending on which school you're enrolled it). I'm not at all sure of his age; I told him I figured he was somewhere between 18 and 30, and I wouldn't venture a narrower guess, because I know I'm rubbish at judging people's ages.

(This is why I card a lot of customers, btw. It's nothing personal.)

Anyway, working with him makes me a touch uncomfortable. He's not creepy or anything; it's just that I have the distinct feeling that he was attempting to flirt. His questions and comments all had that sort of double feel to them, where they're mostly just making conversation but also offering or asking more if you choose to take them that way.

And, you know, I am just not interested. Which I attempted to make clear without doing anything as blunt as saying, "Hey, I think you might be flirting and please don't because I do not want a relationship with you, and I therefore find flirting uncomfortable because it makes me feel both pressured into reciprocal flirting (which I don't like, because that implies that I might be open to a relationship with someone, sometime, and I'm about 90% sure that I'm not), and also vaguely rude for my complete lack of standard emotional/social response."

...

Clearly I'm overthinking this.

But still. Discomfort is discomfort, and all the logic in the world can't argue away a subconscious emotional response.

wherein Liz is slightly uncomfortable about her new coworker

I have now worked twice with JG, our new trainee. He's a Cornell student, in ILR (which is, I think, a state school rather than a fully private school -- Cornell is a weird mish-mash of private and land-grant, so tuition levels vary wildly depending on which school you're enrolled it). I'm not at all sure of his age; I told him I figured he was somewhere between 18 and 30, and I wouldn't venture a narrower guess, because I know I'm rubbish at judging people's ages.

(This is why I card a lot of customers, btw. It's nothing personal.)

Anyway, working with him makes me a touch uncomfortable. He's not creepy or anything; it's just that I have the distinct feeling that he was attempting to flirt. His questions and comments all had that sort of double feel to them, where they're mostly just making conversation but also offering or asking more if you choose to take them that way.

And, you know, I am just not interested. Which I attempted to make clear without doing anything as blunt as saying, "Hey, I think you might be flirting and please don't because I do not want a relationship with you, and I therefore find flirting uncomfortable because it makes me feel both pressured into reciprocal flirting (which I don't like, because that implies that I might be open to a relationship with someone, sometime, and I'm about 90% sure that I'm not), and also vaguely rude for my complete lack of standard emotional/social response."

...

Clearly I'm overthinking this.

But still. Discomfort is discomfort, and all the logic in the world can't argue away a subconscious emotional response.