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We are not the same persons this year as last; nor are those we love. It is a happy chance if we, changing, continue to love a changed person.
---William Somerset Maugham

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This would be one of the reasons I don't really have OTPs. I'm not saying that lasting love is impossible, by any means, just that I understand how relationships can fade over time.

The other reason I don't have OTPs, of course, is because I think the idea of each person having only one person in the entire rest of the world with whom he or she can find 'true' happiness and love is A) scary B) based on a faulty understanding of human nature, and C) likely to lead to lazy and easily broken relationships. I think that people can be happy on their own, or with any number of potential partners, provided that they're willing to work at their relationships. That, I find, is a much more cheerful view than the idea that if you screw up with your One True Love, you're sunk for all eternity.

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Date: 2005-12-29 09:23 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] karit.livejournal.com
"We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly."
- Sam Keen

My view of love and life lends very well to OTPs, though it does not disregard the choice of being without OTPs.

I do love quotes.

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Date: 2005-12-29 11:47 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] karit.livejournal.com
Oh, A Word A Day! I'm on that too, but I don't think I've really noticed the quotes. I usually just check out the word and then delete the entry. I'll have to start paying closer attention, apparently. ^_^;

Hm. I've never paid that much attention to the phrasing. You're right, the ONE is kind of... well, disquieting if you think about it. But... still, on a personal level, it doesn't bother me. I'm not very forceful about my OTPs when I have them, they're MY one true pairing, and if someone else doesn't have the same opinion, then it doesn't bother me. Opinions are opinions. Still, so many people get so worked up over silly things like OTPs.

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